Three cheers for coffee

A letter to my younger self I have just read the brilliant post from Mummy needs a Merlot on facebook and it inspired me to write my own! Hers was actually to her 26 year old self! My younger self. My goodness. I would like to go back and give her a hug actually. I'm not quite sure what she would like to do to the 45 year old me though! My main advice would be to worry less. Easily my main point to make! How much time have I wasted worrying, analysing and evaluating life? Conversations, events, situations, things overheard or said to my face. Things I've done! What a waste of chuffing time! I totally get that this is me and I want to sing that line out loud now, like in the fab musical! I am a Virgo and a worry wart. I am soft hearted and put myself in other people's shoes a lot. Even though I have size 6 and a half, wide feet! My lovely cousin and I, are two peas in a pod, or mushy peas because we are too soft. But I always say it is in our DNA and I'd ra...

Sagging, slightly flagging but empowered! This describes my friends of a similar age and myself, to a tea! I have written both a menopause and an ageing disgracefully blog before but this is slightly different! Probably because I'm in a different place now as I was then! I do feel more confident and empowered. Definitely sagging, my pipes need lagging and I'm physically flagging. But yes! I'm in a better frame of mind to cope with it all now! Even though I ate and drank like it was an Olympic event over Christmas, I do feel mentally and spiritually lighter as I enter this new year, and decade. I just now need to work on the physical bit! When I read this next quote, I knew it fitted me. I have carried so much more than I should have: guilt, blame, self doubt, regret and worry to be just a few big boulders I had upon my shoulders. I am now carrying these as stones; you can't fully get rid of feelings and emotions but you can make sure they don't take as much e...

The Good Life. When I think of this title, I automatically think of the 1970s sitcom with the lovely Penelope Keith and Richard Briers. I absolutely love Penelope Keith as an actress, especially in this and 'Rosemary and Thyme'. I love her smiley nature and her mischevious look. Also, she has aged so well. It must be the good life! I love this photo of Tom and Barbara, such solid names. They are so happy growing their greens and working together in the garden. Perhaps hubby and I could start an alotment in the new year? Or a cabbage patch? Well, just watering our house plants would be a jolly good start! There is something so fulfilling about growing your own food, harking back to the Dig for Victory campaign in World War 2. Getting out into the open air and producing tasty fruit and vegetables to enjoy for yourself. Being self sufficient must be so rewarding. Just look at the smiles on their faces in this photo! Tom and Barbara were so down to earth and ground...

New year, new you. Stop trying to claw back the old you; she's not there anymore. Instead, there is a new you waiting! Don't waste any more time and effort trying to get her back because she's now assigned to history. Parts of her have followed. The best parts. The other parts like self doubt, pleasing people, over analysing, they're gone! Think of yourself as the main character in your story with a new turn and twist. Sometimes it is a bit nerve wracking, revealing the new you and taking that first step on your next journey. But you have to trust in the magic. One step at a time. See where it takes you! We are strong when we keep going and working at things. I've outstayed jobs where I should have left earlier. We all have! Sometimes, you need to see if you are wasting time and energy on staying or if you are better using that energy on something new. It is so easy to just stay. You feel comfy. Or at least you think you do! When really, you need ...