Let them

Let them

I love this phrase that my fab friend shared with me. Two little words that say so much. A very empowering phrase. I have spent a long time, as many folk have, worrying and wondering what people think. Where has it got us? People are going to think what they want about you, positive or negative. Whether you have a two hour analysis about your conversation! Hence, the 'let them'! 

It really is enough to be who we are, without changing to fit in.

I was actually talking to my lovely friend the other day about something and as I was about to go down that rabbit hole of what people might think, she looked at me and just said,

"Let them."

Two very freeing words. This phrase takes the emphasis off you and your actions and places it more on them. She told me about this fab book by Mel Robbins that I now need to buy. 

We can overthink things. We do waste time worrying about what other people think. Especially when they might be doing exactly the same! But even if they are criticising us and did mean to be cruel with their words, it gets us nowhere overthinking it all. Some good advice here!

This always makes me laugh. When someone judges you, but they appear to be helpful as they do. Beware the starting of a conversation with, 'I don't mean to offend you but ...' Await the criticism, via a smile!

When people are passive aggressive, it really gets my goat! Just spit it out and say what you mean! Especially in text messages and groups! We should be building each other up, not making jibes and being smug!

It is so easy to judge. Who is that helping though? We don't always need telling. We sometimes just need a listening ear or arms to hold us. No judgement.

This is such a good quote from pinterest. How long do we keep trying, as the Ugly sisters did in Cinderella, to make shoes, tight jeans and some friendships fit us? I have certainly done all three! We try to see the best in folk and remember the times that they were helpful but we can overlook the fact they put us down at times. We have our comfy shoes, we have leggings and we have those friends who always look out for us. Stick with them!

Remember how much love you give to people. Remember how you let folk be themselves. You need to hold on to this and make sure you are being treated the same.

This is a lovely thought. What you think of yourself matters just as much. I am happy with me. I maybe need to not be as soft but I know I always mean well!

Sometimes though, we can still be negative with ourselves. We don't need anyone else criticising us because we can do that to ourselves anyway! We do doubt ourselves at times. We do wonder if we could have made a better go at something or we analyse things we have said. I love this quote. Have a word with yourself! 

Love this quote. Get accepting!

We are who we are and we are enough. I mean, sometimes I can be too much! But I would rather be too much than not enough! When we put ourselves down and overlook our qualities, maybe others might also? 

This is a good quote, especially for recovering perfectionists like myself. Well, I am a Virgo! Life is not meant to be perfect so neither should we be perfect!

I have just realised there are two ways of viewing this 'Let them' quote. Let them think what they want and do what you are doing anyway! But also, Let people get on with their lives and you get on with yours. I have taken the hard route to finding this out but it is very good advice indeed!

Another good piece of advice! I really am ok with this now. Maybe it is an age thing!

It can weigh you down, listening to what everyone thinks. Lose some of that weight and feel lighter!

Some folk drink tea and others coffee. That's ok!

Think of how you can use your energy for the good. I don't worry like I used to but I still do rumebate. Often, in the early hours when I can't sleep! I need to remember that worrying doesn't get you anywhere!

When you are someone who takes on board the vibe of a room and other people's energy, it can be great if this is positive but it can be negative also. It can be draining being positive much of the time. Sometimes we do need some time for just us. Time to recharge our social batteries!

I love this quote. Says so much! Be your own friend. Look after you!

You spend so much time looking for the good in others, praising their strengths, congratulating them for their successes and supporting them along the way. Don't forget to see your own worth too! When people compliment you, believe them. They can see the fabness. You need to see it too!

I do love this quote I saw on pinterest. A reminder of your worth! Always makes me smile!