The sisterhood

The sisterhood

When my daughter and I watched this fab film, for the first time with my mum, we absolutely loved it. And we have watched it many more times since, along with the sequal! It is a gorgeous coming of age film about four teenage friends who spend their summer apart so stay bonded through this shared pair of jeans that fit them all. They all, miraculously, fit into the same pair of jeans and each spend a time wearing them, then posting them on. They stayed close to each other, as each was facing momentous events and decisions, through these travelling pants. Friendship can stand the test of being miles apart, as it did in this film.

I found the book written that was made into the film. I need to read this lovely book too!

I love the idea of sharing something between friends that you can both enjoy. When we were 17, one of my best friends and I bought a posh dress together, from Topshop and paid £16 each. That was expensive then! My fab Saturday job paid me £12 a day so half the dress was over a week's wage! We took it turns to wear it and it was our way of being able to have something we could not have afforded, but also a bond. I look at photos now, of the size 10 us, each wearing it and the photos make me smile. And I wonder how my good friend would still be able to get in it but it wouldn't get past my bum now! Happy memories!

I mean, one of the soundtracks of my teenage years was Cyndi Lauper, 'Girls just wanna have fun'. And we did! Laughing together, sharing private jokes, looking forward to events excitedly then analysing them afterwards. 

The sisterhood is a very important hood. I have written about many hoods- motherhood and the otherhood being two. And I am always reminiscing about childhood! Well, the sisterhood definitely helps you through both of those! I need to point out here, that I will do think brotherhood is important too! I owe so much to my male family and friends also! I have written much about family and friendship and there is a strong sense of sisterhood running through both. I was happily reminiscing about how I met some mum friends and started talking to them. How we bonded through our girls and had loads of fun together while they were growing up. I absolutely love this quote and it reminds me of fab play dates, chatting away with lovely friends, all keeping each other going through worries and sleepless nights!

This is lovely too. Definitely like therapists!

I love this quote. One of my closest friends is a Mum friend and we always laugh about all the workshops and stuff I would get us signed up for! Wonderful memories! It is about offloading your worries and insecurities with one another but also about having fun!

Thinking about the word sister makes you think of family and I am very lucky with my sister in laws and step sister. I don't actually have a sister but these amazing women more than make up for that! And actually, I have to remember I am a sister myself, to my wonderful brother. I love being an aunty to my nephews and nieces too. I love this sister in law quote.

I am close to a few of my cousins also, which means so much to me as we have a shared history and a bond with our mums and dads and grandparents. We have so many shared memories together. 

The idea of sisterhood goes further than family. It is also the sisters we choose for ourselves. I am a huge fan of Anne of Green Gables and do believe in kindred spirits. Those women who 'get you', without judgement. Those women who have your back and want the best for you. Those women who will hold you up when you are drunk (fr taspberry cordial), who will listen to your dramas, over and over again, who will send you, 'You ok?' texts. Surround yourself with these types of women and you won't go far wrong! Love this from Etsy on pinterest.

Soul sisters are much needed as you navigate your way through life. You know when you meet one because you become so close really quickly, vibing off each other and just 'get' what they are going through without having to know them for years.

When you meet these special people, you really just know. You know they will be there for you, have your back, check in on you. You know they will drop everything for you and you know you will feel so much better for seeing them. 

You see, these kind of friends who just show up when you really need them are gold.

You feed off each other's vibe and are re-energised each time you meet. They always see your true potential when you start doubting yourself. They proudly push you forwards when your confidence has gone. They remind you of your worth when you've forgotten.

You can find a good sisterhood in your job too. I have found a few in my teaching career but the one I think of most is when I worked at Goldthorpe. I have been very lucky to work with many women who supported me in my hour of need, as I did them. They supported me quietly, on the sidelines and behind the scenes, without letting folk know I was super struggling. Quiet support is so important.

I love this definition of sisterhood!

I love this next quote. Those friends and family who are there for the nitty gritty of life, not just the highs. 

Sisterhood gets you through. A type of medicine that reaches your soul and lifts you until you feel yourself again. I have recently met a few ladies who have bonded over midlife with me. Very therapeutic!

So too, is having friends from childhood who have seen you and supported you through your different stages. And you them! Even the version with the dodgy 80s perm!

It is about finding your tribe. You may have a few tribes! Groups that gel and work together. They do bring out the best in you! All different folk from different backgrounds with different ages but all bonding with a shared love of one another. When you all meet, you bring something individually that together, connects and works really well. And age really doesn't matter at all. I have older friends who look younger than me! And I have lovely time spent with my amazing daughter and her friends. 

You do feel better by seeing certain people. Their loveliness just absorbs you and lifts your mood!

This is so true! Share your weirdness and be proud of your quirks!

I love this quote. No competition. Life is hard enough without that!

This is lovely too! Help each other grow and be tye best you can be.

Strength in numbers! And the knowledge you do not have to do things on your own.

This is so lovely. I love the idea of circles of women supporting us. Women from past generations in our family, willing us on as we go through life. In our family, we talk about our past generations a lot, lovingly reminiscing magical memories. I also love seeing who I take after for certain things!

I love this! Support each other and big each other up. Be proud of their achievements and support their dreams. I love supporting my small business friends who put much love into their handmade pieces: jewellery, bath and body products and decorations. I am so proud of them and promote them whenever I can. They too support my blog and my little book club.

You know when you are with people who have your back and would give you the shirt off their back!

I do love my books and many I have read are about sisters. One of my faves is Sisters by Claire Douglas. Amazing book!

This looks lovely from pinterest. But then, any book with a dog on the cover would! 

This book looks interesting I saw on pinterest. I would love to read this. And even write my own love letter to the amazing women who shaped me.

I love this quote about mums. My mum is still such an amazing role model. My gran, mum and aunties definitely shaped me and I love remembering all of gran's sayings as we grew up! And the amazing men of my family. Didn't want to leave them out! I have a lovely ma in law who always leaves a fab comment on every blog too!

I have enjoyed writing about the sisterhood and I love being part of a sisterhood too. We do feel replenished when we spend time with our 'sisters'. When we spend time with those women who love us for us.

I am getting very soppy writing this blog! I am feeling blessed for the lovely relationships I have. With the brotherhood too! I am also nostalgic for past friendships that were wonderful at that time. But also, looking forward to new friendships too. I love this from pinterest. Very deep! I love their hair and denim jackets too!

Thinking back to being teens, looking out for each other on nights out, this quote makes me feel all warm. We are doing just this.